When I was a teenager, I remember reading about sex and sexuality online, trying to understand how it all works. I asked myself some seemingly innocent questions about the subject, like “how old do you have to be to buy dildos?” I was apprehensive about the answer, because I was still in the early stages of understanding my own sexuality.

I started to do some research and realized there was no one-size-fits-all answer to my question. Every state and country has its own laws regarding the purchase and sale of sex toys, and it can be a little confusing to figure out. Most retailers will not sell dildos to minors, and while there may be some exceptions, it’s in your best interests to save your money and wait until you turn 18 before you even think about buying one.

However, I realized that this was actually a rather restrictive approach to sexuality. I had to respect the laws, but I still wanted to explore the different aspects of pleasure and the tools I could use to get there. That’s when I started looking into different options for exploring my own sexuality, even though I was underage.

I realized that there are many ways to enjoy and explore your sexuality without actually buying a dildo. There are even many DIY tutorials for people to make their own sex toys! Sure, this can be a bit of a learning curve, but it’s cheaper and more fun than buying a dildo and I found it especially helpful during my formative years when I was still exploring my identity. Plus, I could play around with different materials and get creative with mind-blowing designs.

Also, there are lots of simple, everyday objects that can be used as dildos. One of the most common ones is the classic banana, which can make for a pleasurable and intimate experience. Same goes for vegetable, like cucumbers or carrots. Not to mention, you don’t even have to purchase any of these objects, as most households have several lying around in the fridge.

So no, you don’t need to be over 18 to explore your own sexuality. Shopping for dildos can be fun, but there are so many other ways to enjoy and explore sex and pleasure without buying a dildo.

Another viable option is to look into anal toys, or toys specifically designed for external stimulation. Butt plugs are a great way to explore different sensations, and they can be made from different materials like silicone, rubber or glass.

This is one of the safest and most comfortable ways to explore anal play, as opposed to using regular-sized dildos. Most butt plugs are relatively short and slender and they allow you to gradually increase the stimulation. Plus, most of these toys come with special ergonomic handles that make them easier to use and more comfortable during insertion.

There are also a variety of anal beads available, ranging from small and discreet to large and eye-catching. These can also be used to create a variety of enjoyable sensations by varying the size and speed of insertion. While anal beads look intimidating, they’re actually quite beginner-friendly once you get used to them.

Speaking of beginner-friendly, there are also specially designed vibrators that are perfect for exploring your pleasure zones. Vibrators come in all shapes and sizes, but most are designed to stimulate the clitoris and/or G-spot. This is great for solo play, as well as having a partner help you explore these different sensations.

Finally, let’s not forget the importance of lubes! Water-based lubes are great for all kinds of activities, but if you’re looking for a more seamless experience, then you should definitely check out silicone-based and hybrid lubes. They last a lot longer and provide a smoother feel during penetration.

So regardless of your age, you can still enjoy and explore your sexuality without feeling guilty or restricted. With a bit of creativity and dedication, you can learn to make your own toys and find a variety of other options to truly enjoy the ride. After all, pleasure is a right we all should enjoy.