I recently met someone who asked me what the right pace was when it comes to male masturbation. Frankly, it’s a difficult question to answer with certainty since everybody is different, and there’s no one-size-fits-all answer! But, after thinking about it for a while, I think there are a few basic guidelines everyone should follow when stimulating themselves.
First off, everyone needs to decide how quickly they would like to masturbate. Some people enjoy teasing and teasing themselves over a longer period of time before they finally reach the heights of pleasure. Others may find that they prefer to get to the point faster. Whatever your preference is, it’s important to incorporate that pace into your masturbation routine when you’re masturbating.
Next, pay attention to your body and how it responds to different paces. If you’re trying to go fast, but your body isn’t responding as well as it does when you go slow, then take it down a notch. This way, you’ll gain a better understanding of the best way to masturbate for you, and further refine it.
Adding lube to your masturbation sessions can also be beneficial. This will make the experience even more enjoyable as it gives you a smooth surface which makes it pleasant and almost effortless to keep going at a quicker pace. Just make sure to read the label and buy quality lube that is safe to use for your genitalia.
Variations are also important. Get creative! Play with the speed and pressure to figure out what kind of stimulation that you like most. Some men may find that they enjoy masturbating faster and then slowing down. It’s possible to find a spot in between these two extremes that appeals to you and keeps things fresh and exciting.
Aside from speed, you can also use your imagination and explore different ways to pleasure yourself, such as different kinds of pornography, sex toys, erotic stories, or even imagined scenarios. Doing this helps break up the monotony and give yourself a whole new experience and perspective.
Now, I’m not saying there’s one “right” way to masturbate, but I think it’s good to take the time to explore different methods and see what works best for dildos you. Try experimenting with speed, pressure and intensity – and above all else, have fun.
Going deeper into this topic, I think it’s useful to learn about the different types of orgasms that males can experience. Typically, it’s believed that orgasm is the result of the rhythmic and repetitive contractions of the pelvic floor muscles, and male masturbation can certainly be a great way to experience this sensation. But there are different types of male orgasms that don’t rely on these contractions. They include what’s known as the ‘dry’ orgasm, where no ejaculation occurs, as well as multiple types of orgasms, where several orgasms can occur in a single session. Experimenting with speed is highly recommended if you are aiming for this type of orgasm.
Now, masturbation is a great tool to increase sexual pleasure and it can open the door to better intimacy with a partner if that’s what you’re looking for. But it can also be a way to discover your own body and its capabilities, and to learn how to make yourself feel good or even reach orgasm.
My main advice would be to think of masturbating as an experiment in pleasure. Don’t be afraid to experiment and take your time in exploring and learning everything that you can about your body. Remember, this is all about you and what works best for you. Enjoy the journey!
If you’re looking to take a break from masturbation, there are other alternatives such as breathwork, guided meditation, and even specialised yoga practices like tantra, which help you to be more present in your body and more connected to your sexuality. Putting masturbation aside for a while may even help you to appreciate it more and become even more sensitive when you come back to it.
You can also explore and experiment with different sex toys, like dildos or vibrators, to add some spice to your masturbation routine. Sex toys can help increase intensity, provide more pleasure, and even create new sensations. And they’re also great for exploring your body and reaching those difficult-to-reach areas that are often off-limits during regular masturbation or with a partner.
In the end, nobody knows your body better than you and experimenting can help you find the best way to stimulate yourself and bring about pleasure. Masturbating at a faster or slower pace is something that you will need to figure out for yourself. The speed may depend on your mood and the type of stimulation you’re looking for, and it can certainly change from time to time. So, let go of any expectations and simply enjoy the experience!